ARGH.

[phinnia]

Deep breaths. Happy place. Etc.

Sent an email to the classroom teacher this afternoon mentioning that we don't feel we are in the loop about what Seaners is learning at school

Got email reply. Quoting selected passages below:

"I seem to have some confusion as I am in almost daily contact with you via email."

Um, yes. But the emails you send are things like "sean had a 'good day' today" (hello, vague?) and "we need you to send in this or that permission form, this or that supply is running out.' I am asking what the child is DOING. What life skills are you working on this week? What is he doing in therapy sessions? These are not hard questions! If this is the way you communicate with all your parents (which it appears to be given you say this is your replacement for the communication notebook)? WHAT THE FUCKING HELL?!? What is a "good day"? It sounds good, but does it say anything? No!

"There have been 3 IEPs sent home."

Yes, and everygoddamned one of them it's been "Sean is doing x y z successfully now." and we're all "what?" or "Sean is blah blah blah social skills blah." and we're all "why aren't you worrying about language and dealing with the socialization bullshit later on when he has a METHOD OF SOCIALIZING? YOU KNOW.

"You are invited to come and visit the classroom and you have declined."

Oh yes, of course. I have all the time in the bloody world to go down there and follow the boy around all day. Yes, definitely. Because I'm a fucking mother that has nothing else to fucking do, of course. It's not like I have a rest of my life, except wait! I do, you IDIOT. Chris works, what, 8AM-10PM most days? I have stuff to do, not the least of which is wrangling the child? For fuck's sake. I do not want to go down there, it is halfway across fucking town and I do not have TIME to go during the day, because that's when I'm TRYING TO GET EVERYTHING DONE THAT I CAN'T DO WHEN THE BOY IS AT HOME! LIKE GET MY GODDAMNED BRAIN BACK FROM THE PABLUM IT TURNS TO WHEN I HAVE TO DEAL WITH THIS! LIKE HAVE TO DEAL WITH A MILLION DOCTORS! LIKE FUCKING EVERYTHING! WHAT THE FUCK IS WRONG WITH YOU THAT THIS IS SO FUCKING HARD TO FUCKING UNDERSTAND?????

MUST RESTRAIN URGE TO KILL. Y'all don't want me to go all shankhill butchers on your asses.

"... 'cause everybody knows if you don't mind your mother's words ... a wicked wind blows the ribbons from your curls ... everybody knows, everybody shakes ... the shankhill butchers want to catch you away ..."

Comments

[kibbles.livejournal.com]

What a moron. If she can't handle special needs, she needs to step away from the classroom, seriously.

[lauramcewan.livejournal.com]

I am 99% sure I want to you send what you posted here to her!

[mac-arthur-park.livejournal.com]

Seconded.

[anneheart.livejournal.com]

Seriously, you need to move to SE CT and send the boy to my school because our special ed staff rocks. I can't believe how badly things are going - it's so different than what's happening where I live.

[m0usegrrl.livejournal.com]

Dude. Time to escalate to either the teacher's supervisor, the principal, or the school board. Seriously. That teacher JUST DOESN'T GET IT.

[jenk]

Sounds like you have definitely confirmed a communication problem.

I would suggest you shadow him for 1 day, NOT so that you know what's going on (because that would only give you a small snapshot) but to improve communication in the future. Yes, it's a royal pain, but it's a way to help them know you as something other than words on a screen.

I am NOT saying you shouldn't take this further or higher or that you shouldn't tour other schools or consider other districts. Just that it might help you to understand the current teachers better and vice versa.

[eleri.livejournal.com]

I am totally sending you a copy of the daily progress sheets we get for Miri, so you can wave them in their face. Takes Mrs WJ all of two minutes to fill them out every day

[wordweaverlynn.livejournal.com]

I was going to suggest something like that -- a list of questions the bitch teacher has to answer every day. Like what is she teaching and how is she teaching it. Plus interactions, etc.

He had a good day? Did he hang out in a hammock for three hours and then win the lottery?

[pickleboot.livejournal.com]

this is why after a broken collarbone, not following the very carefully crafted iep, and several other things, we decided to home school. i know that zane is easier, but at this point i would be seriously consider moving schools. this is absolutely asinine. at least escalate this to the principal. because this does not fly.

[natalief.livejournal.com]

I would suggest replying to her email with a slightly edited version of what you say behind the cut. *hugs*

[miintikwa.livejournal.com]

*HUG*

Seriously, you need to explain to her that SPECIFICITY is IMPORTANT. Sheesh.

[dandelion-diva.livejournal.com]

That's absolutely ridiculous. You shouldn't have to go supervise her to find out what's going on in your son's school-life. And you *didn't* give up any rights when you declined the offer to be there.

She's an ass. Is there someone else you could talk to? Someone who actually uses the brain for thinking?