phinnia | fiesta de la noches

Sixteen days to go nanannananana i wanna be sedated.

Apparently they have found a new teacher for the child, by the name of Ms. Maki. (insert obligatory south-park-drugs-are-bad reference here: I certainly did.) There is a school picnic on the evening of the 27th which I will undoubtedly be too tired to go to (considering the next two weeks look hellish) and they might be organizing a class get together for Labor day weekend, which sounds ... *sigh*.

Just - do not want, on so many levels - there's always the helicopter parents/pod!mommies to try and get away from, plus I rarely have anything in common with anyone at these types of social gatherings, which means my lately-quiet social anxiety is going to ramp up to panic-attack stage. (Not to mention the wildcard in any sped class wherein the parents treat gimpy adults potentially like children because they go into Disability Mode.)

That said, we do need to meet with/train/show the One True Way to Ms. Maki.

I think I'll try and set up a phone consult/email.

Tomorrow Seaners' Auditory Integration Training starts. Good times! It seems to involve teaching the child to listen. Insert appropriate snarkage here.

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"ms maki" just makes me think of, like, futomaki. i kind of expect her to show up wrapped in rice and nori. good for lunch, not so great for someone who's going to have to teach your kid.

"Use the Force, ~~Luke~~ Phinnia!"

Not to mention the wildcard in any sped class wherein the parents treat gimpy adults potentially like children because they go into Disability Mode.
Oh, man. That would be so frustrating. :(

What does the AIT entail? The boys had something that sounds similar...did we discuss this already? I forget. I have brain-fog.

I'm not 100% sure - it's something about attending to different tones? I'll have a beter explanation tomorrow. <3

Sounds very familiar!!!!!

Ooooh. How did it work for your boy(s)? Sean has ten days worth of sessions, two half hour sessions per day (they come to the house) starting tomorrow...

For Finbar it worked especially well, for him it was sound sentitivities/paying attention to aural input/etc. He actually is done with speech therapy, and not doing that any more.

We redo it with Ted when he starts grabbing his ears again but he does so much stuff its hard to tell what does and does not work.

I just have to believe that somewhere at one of these gatherings, you're going to meet another sped parent like you and me. I mean, by the law of averages. While my school doesn't have sped-only gatherings like yours does, I know a lot of sped parents whose kids are similar to Kiddo, and very few are the crazy podmommies or morons who treat adults like kids. It's good to have fellow parents who get what you're going through to talk to, because parenting a sped kid IS different (way, way different) than parenting a non-sped kid, and they know how crazy it gets with the meds and the testing and the therapists and breaking in a new team every year. Together we conquer.

EDIT: Clarifying because I sound like a twit - I don't get why there's such a higher level of podmommy and crazy at your school than mine, but I keep hoping you'll find the non-crazy folks and have actual, y'know, adult conversation at one of these things with people who know what you're going through. I hope so, at least.

I would tend to agree -- at least give it a try. If they're all podparents, then go ahead and write 'em off for the rest of the year. But give them, and yourself, a chance first. Worst case, they're idiots, and you walk away saying "fuck 'em."

Might it be the podmommies seek out Phinnia & Tallin so they can "take care" of them?

I think that's a fascinating theory. Creepy, too.

*dry laugh* No, that's pretty much it. Sad but true.

That would be it, yes. Exactly. And they're often harder to shake than a case of herpes.

I think that perhaps, on some level, you over-expect pod!mommies and helicopter parents. Don't get me wrong, I know that they're there, but I don't think you've given yourself a chance to find out if any of them are more than that. I know it's hard with the anxiety, but it might pay off to try a couple of times and see what you come up with. As

reannon says, having other parents who know where you're coming from can be exceedingly helpful.

Hell, if you met me in some other forum, it's quite possible that you'd think I was a pod!mommy at first.

Part of the problem is that they tend to gravitate towards us because we both have Very Visible Disabilities. And in wanting to be helpful they go too far too fast (there's often a lot of grabbing, which I just hate, among other things - it throws me off balance for one thing, plus having random strangers grab you out of the clear blue nothing is just not cool.)
And if that sort of thing happens it too easily spoils any potentially positive experience, you know?

I'd be breaking some arms. I know how people do that and I just do NOT understand. It's like encouraging your kids play with a service dog without even talking to the person. WTF? People are freaking stupid.

I do know. I get a hell of a lot of this stuff and my issues aren't even very visible. I do think that there might be something beneficial there, too. I just don't know how to get past the other bull to find it.

You might want to have a word with the school about this. Having them explicitly note that some parents have disabilities, are coping well and that trying to "help" when you haven't been asked is not only rude but can *cause* accidents.

This may boggle some folks at the school. But if it does, that's *good* because it might break thru their wall of ignorance. And once you get the school on your side, then they can help ride herd on the overly helpful parents

And if they are doing it to you and Chris, they are likely doing it to other people's kids, which is also a Very Bad Thing.

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